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If you are at home and are being threatened or attacked:

    • Stay away from the kitchen, where your attacker can find knives or other weapons.
    • Stay away from bathrooms, closets or other small spaces where your attacker can trap you.
    • Get to a room with a door or window, in order to escape.
    • Know ahead of time to whom you can run for help.
    • If you can’t escape, get to a room with a phone to call 911, and lock your attacker out, if you can.  Get the dispatcher’s name.
    • When the police come, tell them what happened.  Get their names and badge numbers.
    • Get medical help if you’re injured.  Make sure the hospital staff take pictures of your injuries.
    • If you don’t go to the hospital, have a friend take pictures of any bruises or injuries as they develop.
    • Call SAFE Shelter at 629-8888, day or night, for assistance and shelter.  Call SAFE Shelter Outreach at 651-0004 during regular business hours for help in getting a Temporary Protective Order.



    • Memorize emergency numbers for people and agencies that can help you.
    • Keep a phone in a room you can lock from the inside, or keep a cell phone with you at all times.  (Make sure the bill or minutes are always paid up!)
    • Plan an escape route out of your home and teach it to your children.
    • Know ahead of time where you can go for help in an emergency.
    • Pack a bag with important things you’ll need if you have to leave quickly.   Include cash, car keys, and important information such as court papers, bank book, birth certificates, medical records, prescriptions, immigration papers, etc.  Put the bag in a safe place or give it to a friend or relative you trust.
    • If the abuser moves out, change the locks on the doors immediately, and put locks on all windows.
    • Get an unlisted number.
    • Ask your neighbors to call the police if they see the abuser at your home.  Set up a signal for them to call the police in an emergency, for example, if a certain window shade is pulled down or a particular light is turned on.



    • Tell them never to get in the middle of a fight, even if they want to protect you.
    • Teach them how to get to a safe place, how to call 911, and how to give their address and phone number to the police.
    • Make sure who they know who to run to in an emergency.
    • Tell them to stay out of the kitchen during a fight.
    • Give your child’s principal or day care director copies of court orders.  Instruct them not to release your child to anyone without talking to you first.  Develop a password so they can be sure it is you on the phone.  Give them a picture of the abuser for your child’s file.
    • Make sure children know who to tell at school if they see the abuser.
    • Instruct your child’s school or daycare center not to give your phone number or address to anyone.




    • Change your regular travel habits.
    • Try to get rides with different people.
    • Shop and bank in different places.
    • Cancel any shared bank accounts or credit cards.  Open a new account at a different bank.
    • Keep your court order and emergency numbers with you at all times.
    • Keep a cell phone with you and program it to 911.
    • If you have to travel to another state for any reason, take your protection order with you.  It’s valid everywhere.


    • Keep a copy of your court order at work.
    • Give a picture of the abuser to friends at work and to security personnel.
    • Explain the situation to your supervisor and ask for help in making it harder for the abuser to find or contact you.
    • Don’t go to lunch alone.
    • Ask a security guard or co-worker to walk you to your car or the bus stop.
    • If the abuser contacts you at work, save the voice mails or emails.
    • Ask your employer for help in finding local resources that can help you.



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